Comments on: Stepping Aside

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 00:24:03 +0000

Hey pretty girl! You still hanging in there? it looks like it. Haven’t made my way over to Jay’s blog yet but wanted to stop in and say hi. Trust me darling you will find love again. You will be surprised at how wonderful it is. Your going through a dark night right now but you and Jay are both strong and will weather this storm and come out stronger people for it. Hang tough baby!

By: romach

romach — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 15:15:30 +0000

Anginae, I just wanted to say that I admire you a great deal. I admire the true love you have for Jay and I admire the honesty you have. I truly hope that you can find what you are looking for in your life to make you happy. Everyone deserves that happiness to touch them in their lives. I don’t know what the future holds for you both but the future may depend on you both separating as man and wife but still being the best of friends and still being there for each other in every way. I think you both have the right to experience passion and love in the way that you both want.

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By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 28 May 2008 16:31:21 +0000

Just want to add that I really agree with John’s statements above.

By: throughthestorm

throughthestorm — Wed, 28 May 2008 16:29:47 +0000

Anginae,
Just want you to know I’m praying for you… thanks for being honest and brave. You’re the best!

By: John

John — Wed, 28 May 2008 15:40:33 +0000

Anginae,

You and Jay will come out of this well I am sure. You love each other so much and want the best for each other. I’m praying and hoping all the best for you and your family.

I just wonder if you are letting him go too easily. Don’t be so fast to step aside.

And who knows you may get your wish. I know there are guys out there that could handle sharing with an ex-wife.

But I don’t think either of you are there yet. So take it slowly. And talk it over carefully together the 2 of you before you start/continue down that path.

By: manxxman

manxxman — Wed, 28 May 2008 13:33:20 +0000

Will I know how you feel because my ex wife feels exactly the same way. She doesn’t understand why I can no longer fly off to Texas to be with her, her mom and my son for Christmas. Go off on a holiday with her. She never chose what happened. I tried hard (30+ years) to make our life together happen. It caused a great deal of emotional pain, but I felt that it was my fault in the first place so I had to put up with it. Will it’s just not true, it wasn’t my fault. The only fault there was was my not being honest. And you’re not the only one who asked questions. After awhile I felt like I was being questioned by the Gostepo. I didn’t (don’t) understand why my wiring was not the same as other guys, but it’s not. Jay, for however much you love him and however much he loves you (and that love is truly genuine) can’t be what he’s not. I don’t know if it’s better that it happened with you guys at 10 years instead of 30, I just know that it has happened.

There is going to be some pain (hell ok a lot of pain) but it’s not intentional. The first time you see him with a guy that he’s committed to, pain. The first time a holiday goes by without him, pain. You both can move forward or chose to stand there on the precipce (spelling). Moving forward is a lot healthier. If feel for you both, I really do.

By: Sean

Sean — Wed, 28 May 2008 03:29:35 +0000

I really feel for you and when I read your post, I felt as though my ex-wife was speaking directly to me. What is so unfair about the whole thing is that – when we have these mixed sexual orientation marriages, it’s almost never a deliberate act of deception to enter into marriage. Both parties genuinely love each other but both come out hurt when it starts to unravel. I envy your position though because you still have each others’ shoulders to cry on. Hang in there, beautiful.

By: Troll at Sea

Troll at Sea — Tue, 27 May 2008 22:55:03 +0000

Ange:

Two things upset me more than anything else in leaving my family:

1) that my wife took her maiden name again, and

2) that I had to give up my dream of growing old with my wife.

I was floored by the shock of #1, and the pain of #2.

I think it is dreams that die hardest.

There is a word for people like you:
“good people.”

T@C

By: Nate

Nate — Tue, 27 May 2008 20:02:49 +0000

forgot to mention, I like the new header though looks pretty thoughtful and sad